All the New Testament scriptures address to husbands.
1Co 7:3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.
- Renders affection to his wife = kindness; benevolence (an inclination to do kind or charitable acts), good will, care for
- Renders love to his wife. Love = to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of, to love dearly, gentle, tenderness
- Seeks to promote the happiness of his wife
- Seeks to promote the purity of his wife
Eph 5:17-21 For this reason, stop becoming foolish, _but_ be understanding what [is] the will of the Lord. And stop getting drunk with wine, in which is reckless behavior, _but_ continue being filled with [the] Spirit, speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your* heart to the Lord, giving thanks always for all [things] in [the] name of our Lord Jesus Christ to the God and Father, being subject [or, being submissive] to one another in the fear of Christ.
- Is not foolish with his talk or conversation.
- Is not foolish with his walk
- Shows true wisdom by endeavoring to understand what the will of the Lord is, and then doing it.
- Does not get drunk with wine
- Continues to be filled with the Spirit
- Speaks to self with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs
- Love others and treats them gently.
- Gives thanks always for all things with an earnest affection of the heart, and not with the tongue only.
- Is subject to others (Subject = subordination; reflexively to obey: – subdue unto, submit self unto. “a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating
- Does not abuse his power
- Does not produce disorder
- Does not produce lawlessness
- Does not produce insubordination Insubordination = defiance of authority
Eph 5:23 because [the] husband is head of the wife, as also Christ [is] head of the Assembly, and _He_ is [the] Savior of the body.
- He anticipates and provides everything for it his wife
- He preserves and protects his wife
- He wroughts out salvation for his wife. Wrought = shape, form, or improve
- He practiced self-denial for his wife
- He shows a solicitude to make his wife happy. Solicitude = a feeling of excessive concern
- He saves his wife from want, affliction, and pain
- He anticipates and provides for the needs of his wife
- He comforts his wife in trial
Eph 5:25-26 The husbands, be loving your* own wives, just as also Christ loved the Assembly and gave Himself [or, handed Himself over] on her behalf, so that He should sanctify her, having cleansed [or, purged] [her] with the bathing of the water by [the] word,
- He shows love to his wife. Love = to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of, to love dearly
- He shows a strong and cordial affection for his wife
- He shows a real delight and pleasure in his wife
- He shows respect to his wife
- He honours to his wife
- He seeks to provide his wife with contentment, satisfaction, and pleasure
- He lives in a quiet, constant, and comfortable dwelling with his wife
- He provides all things necessary for his wife
- He protects his wife from all injuries and abuses;
- He conceals his wife’s faults, and covers her infirmities
- He endeavours to promote his wife’s spiritual good and welfare
- His love for his wife is hearty and sincere, and not feigned and selfish
- His love for his wife exceeds that which is bore to neighbours, or even to parents, and should be equal to that a man bears to himself;
- He manifest similar love toward his wife, and a similar desire that she should be prepared to “walk before him in white” as Christ did the church.
Eph 5:28-29 In the same way ought the husbands to be loving their own wives as their own bodies. The one loving his own wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, _but_ he nourishes and cherishes it, just as also the Lord [does] the Assembly,
- Has the same care for the comfort of his wife which he has for himself
- He shows kindness to his wife
- He shows solicitude to make his wife happy
- He nourishes and cherishes his wife.
Eph 5:31 “For this reason, a man will leave behind his father and mother and will be joined to [or, united with] his wife. And they will be-the two-into one flesh [or, And the two will become one flesh].” [Gen 2:4]
- He has bound himself more strongly to his wife than to his father or mother.
Eph 5:33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[a]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [b]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].
- Does not show open exercise of authority in the family.
- Does not “wish” or “expect” anything that it may not be perfectly proper for his wife to render.
- He consults his wife’s wishes; and when he understands what they are, he regards what she prefers as the very thing which he would command. The known wish and preference of his wife, unless there be something wrong in it, is allowed to influence his mind, and be that which he directs in the family.
- His love for his wife is subordinate to his love of God.
- He is willing to deny himself to promote the happiness of his wife
- He is willing to peril health and life to promote her welfare.
- Whatever is seen to be offensive or painful to his wife is at once abandoned.
- All the little peculiarities of temper and modes of speech that are observed to give pain to his wife, are abandoned
- Endeavor to tolerate all the little peculiarities of temper and modes of speech from his wife that pain him.
Col 3:19 The husbands, be loving your* wives, and stop becoming bitter towards them.
- Is not bitter toward his wife. Bitter = to embitter. Exasperate (extremely annoying or displeasing, actions that cause great irritation), render angry, indignant, to be embittered, irritated
- Does not rule with rigour (excessive sternness),
- Does not have a tyrannical (absolute ruler) manner;
- Does not behave towards his wife in a morose (Of a sour temper, sever, sullen), churlish (rude), and ill natured way; Is without any appearance of anger either in word or spirit toward his wife.
- Does not give his wife bitter words, or blows
- Does not use his wife as a servant.
- Love his wife, and treats her gently.
Col 3:21 The fathers, stop making your* children resentful, so that they shall not continue becoming discouraged.
- Does not provoke his children to be resentful. Resentful = an emotion of anger or bitterness felt repeatedly, as a result of a real or imagined wrong done.
- Does not discourage his children. Discourage = disheartened, they do not disregard his commands, instructions, and corrections, and grow obdurate, stubborn, and rebellious
- Does not use words or give unjust and, unreasonable commands to his children; Does not use unreasonable commands; by needless severity; by the manifestation of anger with his children.
- Does not use contumelious and reproachful language with his children
- Does not use frequent and public chidings with his children; Does not continually finding fault with children, lest they should lose all courage, and despair of ever pleasing him.
- Does not use severe and cruel blows with his children
- Takes care not to provoke his children to wrath, because this alienates their minds from them, and renders their instructions and corrections useless, and puts them upon sinful practices;
Col 3:23-25 And every [thing], whatever you* shall be doing, be working from [your*] soul [fig., heartily] as to the Lord and not to people, knowing that from the Lord you* will receive the recompense of the inheritance, for to the Lord Christ you* are serving as a slave. But the one doing wrong [or, acting unjustly] will receive back what he did wrong [or, did unjustly], and there is no accepting of faces [fig., partiality].
- In everything he does, he does working from his soul as to the Lord and not to people.
Tit 2:1-2 But _you_, be speaking what is fitting [or, proper] [for] sound teaching [or, doctrine]. Older men [are] to be temperate, worthy of respect, sensible, sound in the faith, in love, in patient endurance.
- He is temperate: in eating and drinking, especially the latter,
- He is worthy of respect: honorable: – grave, honest, in their behaviour, speech, and dress; serious
- He is sensible, or “vigilant”, and watchful over himself, his conduct and conversation can be drawn into an example by younger persons
- He is sound in the faith … love … patient endurance
- His faith in Christ appears to be right and genuine
- His love to God, to Christ, and to his people, are real and sincere
- He has overcome, at his time of life, all the fiery, impetuous, envious, wrathful passions of his early years,
- His mind is subdued into sweet benevolence to all mankind.
Tit 2:6-7 The younger men, in the same manner, be encouraging [them] to be thinking sensibly, showing yourself concerning all things [or, in all respects] [to be] an example of good works, in your teaching [showing] integrity, dignity, incorruptibility, sound [in] word, above criticism, so that the [one] from the opposition [fig., an enemy] shall be ashamed, having nothing evil to be saying concerning us.
- He not merely teaches others, but shows them by example how they ought to live.
- He is an example of good works.
- He teaches integrity by example.
- He teaches dignity by example.
- He teaches incorruptibility by example.
1Pe 3:7 The husbands, likewise, [continue] living with [your* wives] according to knowledge, as with a weaker vessel, with the feminine [one], showing respect, as also being joint-heirs of [the] grace of life, for your* prayers not to be hindered.
- He lives with his wife according to knowledge, as the weaker vessel. Knowledge = general intelligence, understanding; He treats his wife with special kindness as being more feeble than man, and as having a claim therefore to delicate attention
- He treats his wife with respect
- Honors his wife as the equal heir of the grace of life.
- Shows understanding and wisdom, by wisely and circumspectly behavior toward his wife.
1Pe 3:8-11 And finally, all [of you* be of] one mind, sympathetic, loving [one another] as brothers [and sisters], compassionate, friendly; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but on the contrary, giving a blessing, knowing that for this [reason] you* were called, so that you* shall inherit a blessing. For “The one desiring to be loving life and to see good days must keep his tongue from evil, and his lips [are] not to speak deceit [or, treachery]. “He must turn away from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.
- He is sympathetic. Sympathetic = suffering or feeling the like with another.
- He is fond of brethren, that is, fraternal: – love as brethren
- He is compassionate. Compassionate, tender hearted
- He is friendly = kind: – courteous; treats others gently
- He does not return evil for evil, or insult for insult,
- He keep his tongue from evil, and his lips do not to speak deceit [or, treachery].
- He turns away from evil and does good; he seeks peace and pursues it.
1Co 7:32-33 But I want you* to be free from anxiety; the unmarried [man] is anxious for [or, concerned about] the [things] of the Lord, how he will please the Lord. But the married [man] is anxious for [or, concerned about] the [things] of the world, how he will please the wife.
- He is anxious for [or, concerned about] the [things] of the world, how he will please the wife.
- He makes his wife and his children easy and comfortable,
- He is concerned about how he can accommodate himself to his wife’s temper and wishes, to make her happy.
To read some commentaries on these scriptures, see my post Every Scripture for Husbands and Wives (NT)