Behavioral Contracts for Children in the Home


Just some Behavioral Contracts we used in our home. At one point, we had 6 kids coming and going in our home. Three visited here and lived with the biological parent, one lived here and visited with their biological parent, and two lived here pretty much full time. The age range was about 10 years. The contract for Young Adults would be most appropriate for a child over the age of 18 living in the home. The Kids would be most appropriate for 13-17, although it could be modified to use with younger children. I got most of the ideas from Dr. Phil’s book Family First. But we ended up making them our own. The formatting is a little messed up, but you can copy and paste it and make it look much better.

Behavioral
Contract for Young Adults

Young Adult Section

I, __________, (the Young Adult) and we, ______________________, (the Parents) enter into the following behavioral contract in order to create order and harmony in this home. This contract will be reviewed thirty days from the date of signing, at which time it is subject to either being continued or renegotiated as either a Young Adult agreement or Kid Agreement.

By our agreeing to the terms and conditions of this behavioral contract, all parties understand and accept that they are bound by the contract and are not free to vary from the terms and conditions.

I, ___________, (the Young Adult) agree that I will perform the behaviors listed below in the manner they are set forth and described.

  1. Christian manner and conduct will be expected and maintained as outline in the Bible.
  2. Keep Parents informed of work schedule, when I will be leaving and returning to the home, and write this information on the
    calendar.
  3. Maintain room in a clean, orderly manner. Cloths off floor and put away, desk cleaned off, dresser neat looking, etc. Sheets
    will be used at all times on bed.
  4. In exchange for room and board, take responsibility for rotating zones, performing any tasks needed to keep them in a clean and
    presentable manner through out the day.
  5. Quiet hours will be observed from ______ to _____, except on days when Parent works night shift, quiet hours will be from ______ to _____on those days.
  6. Be in by ______ so as not to disturb other members of the household, unless other arrangements have been made prior to leaving the premise.
  7. Address adults in a respectful tone. Seek to negotiate and talk through disagreements and misunderstandings.
  8. Internet usage is included in board and is subject to being monitored. Access to computer will be provided to Parent for routine
    virus maintenance to protect other’s on the network. Any offensive or inappropriate behavior on this internet will result in it being revoked or filtered. It is understood that this service is subject to power outages, hardware failures, and that disruptions may
    be experienced and Parent is not liable for any non-availability, disruption, or delays. This service is provided as-is with no warrantees whatsoever.
  9. It is expected that pride will be taken in appearance and dress will be in a manner appropriate.
  10. Weekly laundry service is included but items must be in laundry area by ____ on ______. One additional load is allowed, but only
    around Parent’s laundry and must be completed between ____ and _____ by Young Adult.
  11. Other than board, I am responsible for all other  personal expenses.
  12. Central TV may be used subject to availability, non boarders given preference.

I, _________, (the Young Adult) agree that should I violate the contract by failing to perform the behaviors set out above that I will be choosing to suffer consequences and actions as laid out in the Bible:

Parent Section

Both parties acknowledge that this contract is entered into voluntarily and that the terms and conditions will be respected. If performance is accomplished, Parents agree that the Young Adult shall not be denied privileges and other consequences. Young Adult agrees that
if he/she fails to perform that it is him/her and not his/her Parents who have chosen to forfeit the privileges, and he/she will not whine, complain or rebel.

____________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________

Parent                                                           Parent Young Adult

Date _______________________________

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Behavioral Contract

Kid Section

I, _____________, (the kid) and we, ______________, (the parents) enter into the following behavioral contract in order to create order and harmony in our home. This contract will be reviewed thirty days from the date of signing, at which time it is subject to either being continued or renegotiated.

By our agreeing to the terms and conditions of this behavioral contract, all parties understand and accept that they are bound by the contract and are not free to vary from the terms and conditions.

I, ___________, (the kid) agree that I will perform the behaviors listed below in the manner they are set forth and described.

  1. Make mature decisions such as where, when, and with whom I hang out. Thinking through and getting all necessary information
    about what I am asking to do before asking. Be honest, making requests and asking permission to do things in a mature manner.
  2. Keep parents informed of work schedule and write it on the calendar.
  3. Only do school related activities between the school work hours of __________. On non-school days, computer use is limited to ____ hours daily.
  4. Maintain an overall ____ average. Individual subject grades maintained at ____ and above. Seek help when needed.
  5. Maintain room in a clean, orderly manner. Cloths off floor and put away, desk cleaned off, dresser neat looking, etc.
  6. No getting online, on the phone, playing games, or leaving the house for “fun” until the chores are completed. Chore work
    hours during school days are ________. On non-school days, chore hours are from _______ or before leaving the house for “fun” time.
  7. No using phone after _______ on school nights and _______ on other nights. Computer not to be used after ______ on school days and _______ on non-school days. No using phone during dinner, church, and while being talked to by an adult.
  8. Be home on time which is _______ unless otherwise negotiated prior to leaving the house. On non school days, curfew is _____.
    After leaving the house, curfew will typically be non-negotiable.
  9. Have adult chaperone at all times when with boyfriend/girlfriend, unless negotiated prior to event with parents.
  10. When asked politely to do something, complying without whining, complaining or rebelling. Address adults in a respectful tone. Seek to negotiate and talk through disagreements and misunderstandings.Make available all ids and passwords and submit to
    random checks on phone usage and computer usage.
  11. Tithe at least ____ of your earnings and save at least _____. Make records available on request to show that this is being done.
  12. Take pride in my appearance and dress in a manner appropriate for my destination. Business attire when going to my place of
    employment, and nice, neat clothes when attending church events.
  13. Continually work to improve my writing, vocabulary, and grammar skills. Work on developing professional manners and skills.
    Maintain and balance my checking account and pay my bills on time.
  14. Personal goals: Examples: Proactively (acting before a situation becomes a source of confrontation or crisis) participate in
    building my character (attributes that determines a persons moral and ethical actions and reactions), self-esteem (sense of self-worth; the valuing of oneself as a person), and becoming a leader (a person who guides or inspires others). Work with my pastor to develop spiritually. Work with my mentor to develop good decision making skills. Work with parents to develop all aspects of my life. Work on maintaining and controlling my temper in an appropriate manner. Learn to communicate
    frustrations and feelings in a non-threatening and non-violent manner.
  15. Set goals for the next ____ years and work to accomplishing those goals.
  16. Begin raising my standards from good or good enough to achieving my highest performance and potential in all activities, even
    small, everyday tasks.

I, ______, (the kid) agree that should I violate the contract by failing to perform the behaviors set out above that I will be choosing to suffer the following consequences.

  • Denial of permission to do what is being asked and/or denial of the next request.
  • Loss of privilege(s) such as phone, TV, computer and/or other restrictions.
  • Community service as arranged by parents.
  • Susceptible to parent cleaning room and tossing things at their discretion. Chores being done by someone else resulting in loss
    of allowance.
  • Requirement to pay _____ of earnings to parents to save and tithe for you.

Parent Section

We, (the parents), agree that if (the kid) performs the behaviors as outlined above, that in addition to escaping any of the negative consequences outlined above, he/she will have earned the right to the following privileges.

  1. Use of phone. Being able to keep possession of phone during hours of non-use.
  2. Use of computer for things other than school related activities.
  3. Use of TV in bedroom.
  4. Permission to do things when parent’sare well informed and approve of the activities.

  5. As random checks are passed and trust built, checks will be less frequent.
  6. Trust in the kid’s decisions as mature requests are made and confidence built.

Both parties acknowledge that this contract is entered into voluntarily and that the terms and conditions will be respected. If performance is accomplished, parents agree that the child shall not be denied privileges and other consequences. Kid agrees that if he/she fails to perform that it is him/her and not his/her parents who have chosen to forfeit the consequences, and he/she will not whine, complain or rebel.

____________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________

Parent                                                         Parent Child

Date        _______________________________

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One thought on “Behavioral Contracts for Children in the Home

  1. Someone just suggested that this could also be revised and used for children who are not in the home, especially those that are off to college. I, personally, haven’t tried that but I guess it could be done so I thought I’d share their suggestion.

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