Family Laws and Repentance

I think this idea originally came from Steven Covey’s book, or it might have been another one, can’t remember their name just off. Either way, both families were huge! Lots of kids running around. This helps get everyone on the same page, especially when you have all ages and everyone coming and going. Gives a nice base line for the whole family to follow. I actually used this when I was a single parent and my kids were under the age of 10. We met and went over it and they signed with their little hands. We referred back to it quite often.

Family Laws
and Repentance

The purpose of our Family laws is not to punish or to restrict or to exercise control, it is to teach and learn and progress and improve and mature. We grow the most when we correct ourselves, when we learn from our mistakes, when we independently decide to improve or to do better. One must be given every chance to correct themselves, to repent, to avoid the punishment by making restitution. And we must always give the benefit of the doubt.

1.PEACE: Don’t fight … with hands or with words, with hitting or with arguing. Don’t lose your temper or yell.

Go to the “repenting place” and stay there until you can tell what YOU did wrong. Once you have explained what you’ve done wrong, apologize to the other person for that specific act, give them a hug, promise to try not to do it again, and leave. If you can’t tell what you did wrong, you will have to plead the other persons case.

2. ASKING: Don’t go somewhere or do something out side the normal schedule without asking and getting permission. Before touching something ask yourself three questions, if the answer is no to any of them, Don’t touch it: 1) Did an adult ask me to touch it? 2) Is it toy? 3) Is it mine?

When someone does something without asking, without permission, or without someone else knowing what they are doing, the penalty is that the next time they ask to do something, the answer is NO. If someone touches something that is not theirs, 10 minutes of night time TV will be lost.
Consider how your plans may affect other people’s lives before you make spur of the moment plans. Do not try to make spur of the moment plans unless absolutely necessary.

3. ORDER: Also, do things in the right order. Pick up your room before you go to bed. Do homework before fun activities. Be in by your curfew.

If you fail to do things in the proper order or sequence, you will loose 10 minutes of a privileged activity.

4. RESPECT: Be polite, particularly to your parents and other adults.

Also, respect other people’s rights, views, and property and respect the environment. Take care of your things, put away your clothes, and don’t leave messes for others to clean up. Rude and obnoxious behavior will warrant a “start over.” If it takes more than 3 start overs, you will lose a privileged activity. If you make a mess, you clean it up before you can do anything else. When a mess-leaver isn’t around and the cleanup has to be done by someone else, the mess-leaver “owes you one” and has to clean something else to make it up.

5. HONESTY: Always tell the truth.

If caught lying you will be punished for the act that you lied about and you will receive Orajel on the tongue for the lie.

6. OBEDIENCE: Mind your parents and other adults. You may ask why in a polite tone and manner and they will try to tell you, but then do it.

This behavior will warrant a “start over” with one chance to get it right. After that, the offender will be breaking law
number 1 – PEACE.

Specific Rules
if broken, penalty is loss of 10 minutes of TV, 10 push ups, or loss of privilege)


  • Boys – Put the seat down after using it.
  • Girls – Empty the trash when appropriate.
  • Girls have priority for showers at night, boys have priority for showers in the morning.


  • Clothes go IN the hamper, bring your hamper downstairs on your designated wash day. If the hamper is full before your wash day ask if they can be washed, don’t assume the answer is going to be yes, you should be able to get by with washing once a week.
  • TVs, lights, radios, and other electrical items should be shut off when not being used. Computer can be left on while at home.

Living Room

  • Only butts on the couch.
  • No toys, clothes, food, and dishes in living room.
  • Watch where you are standing when someone is watching TV.
  • Show respect to adults by moving for them to have a seat.
  • Shoes off at the door.


  • Do not use major food items without asking first. There are plenty of foods that are available for snacking on. Don’t snack before dinner.
  • Dishes go in the dishwasher. If you find clean dishes in the dishwasher, unload it, then put your dish in it. No dirty dishes in the right side of the sink, please.

Dining Room

  • Manners, Manners, Manners, please. Use please, thank you, and excuse me if you burp.
  • Chew with your mouth closed.
  • Do not fart at the dinner table.
  • Adults first, then kids in a polite manner.


  • Keep it clean. Empty your trash when you exit the vehicle.
  • No fighting, no arguing, keep your hands to your self.
  • Boys in front on the way to, girls in front on the way from.

Rules for

  • Treat the kids as you would like to be treated.
  • Be a role model.
  • Don’t use position to demean kids psychologically such as calling them names, telling them they are no good, etc. Don’t use position to physically demean them.
  • Don’t be unreasonable and frustrate children.
  • Accept the children’s individual strengths and weaknesses.
  • Let the kids know you love them.
  • Don’t condemn or fault find.
  • Catch the kids doing something good and tell them about it.
  • Correct mistakes and then tell them you love them.
  • Teach all children morals and values.
  • Instruct all children according to the Family Laws and Repentance Guidelines. Enforce rules on blood children according to guidelines.
  • Issues not addressed by Guidelines will be handled by stepping away as a team and deciding on actions to be taken. Both parents meet with child and blood parent delivers their decision to the child.
I found a version from when the boys were real little. I just had to laugh at some of the rules! lol


  • Do not touch soap unless told to wash your hands.
  • Used toilet paper belongs in the toilet.
  • Do not touch paper towels.
  • Use 1-2 wipes for morning clean up and then close the wipes and put them on the back of the commode.
  • Do not touch anything in the bathroom except the toilet paper, wipes, and toilet seat. To touch anything else you need to ask first.
  • Do not go into the bathroom without ask.
  • Procedure for using the toilet:
    • Put the seat up (#1)
    • Aim IN the toilet (#1)
    • Put the seat down (#1)
    • Use toilet paper, may use 2 wipes if necessary (#2)


  • If you play with something, put it back when done.
  • Clothes go IN the hamper, if the hamper is full, tell mommy and put the clothes next to the hamper.
  • No pens, paints, or markers.
  • Bed clothes stay on the correct bed.
  • TV should be shut off when not being watched.

Living Room

  • Only butts on the couch.
  • No toys or clothes in living room.
  • Watch where you are standing when someone is watching TV.


  • No crying, yelling, fighting.
  • Go to the bathroom when you need to, don’t wait.
  • Put it away when done.


  • Do not touch anything without asking first.
  • Dishes go in the sink.


  • Quiet, Quiet, Quiet


  • Keep your hands to yourself.
  • Use an inside voice when inside.
  • No lying

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