I just finished blogging my notes on Charles R. Swindoll’s book, ‘The Strong Family.’ The last thing I read was about Exhibiting an Unselfish Diligence.
What has struck me as interesting is how many parents think their children are built in servants. I see men and women who work outside the home having the thought that they are the only one in the family who work. I challenge parents to take a different perspective in looking at their child’s life. During the school year, children have jobs too. They do not receive a monetary payment, they receive grades. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather just get paid for the number of hours I put in or a salary rather than go back to being graded on my work.
And it seems that expectations are so high in regards to those grades, be honest with yourself, do you think you would receive an ‘A’ everyday for the work you put out? Don’t get me wrong, I think that some kids should be required to get A’s, it doesn’t make sense for a gifted student to get D’s, it means they are lazy. Of course, those gifted students are usually in gifted classes so that they don’t get A’s, if they get A’s in the gifted class, they should probably be moved up a grade or something. lol. But if a student is diligently working and trying their best and getting C’s, that should be a good thing. Then again, the expectations are really set by colleges so lower grades can hurt in the future. Ah, how we are driven by things outside the home instead of inside.
If both parents work, and the child attends school, then everyone in the household works. It seems the unselfish diligent thing to do would be to split up the household chores fairly among everyone. If one parent works outside the home and the other parent home schools the child, then, everyone works even though everyone does not receive monetary pay for what they do.
In the summer months, if the child is just hanging out all day, then they should pick up a little more around the house, such as maintaining the lawn.
Another thing that has struck me as interesting … I grew up in a rural community, most kids did not have jobs while they were in school. Actually, most kids DID have jobs, they just didn’t have them outside the home. Many of them were farmers and worked for their parents. Others had many acres of lawn to help their families mow. Others helped out with the family business. But most did not have a paying job outside the home. For one thing, if a child didn’t have their driver’s license, it was a pain because most of the jobs were more than 25 miles away. If a child did drive, it would take them 30 minutes or more to get to work and back, which didn’t leave much time for working after school. Besides, at minimum wage, it cost too much in gas. Most kids were involved in some form of extra-curricular activity, football, baseball, softball, golf, track, cheerleading, etc., which would make it additionally hard to have a job, even in the summer.
In moving to the city, I have seen a whole different world. Kids have jobs at 12! I was shocked, lol. Some kids are required to have a job AND go to school – that’s TWO jobs! Some kids only have summer jobs, which seems ok, but they are not involved in the extra-curricular activities. To someone who was raised in a community such as mine, it almost seems like kids are mini-adults.Yet these mini-adults are treated like kids at home. hmmm
The other side is that growing up in a rural community, we didn’t just congregate somewhere. If we didn’t have our license, we were dropped off at a friends house, and that was where we stayed. You could not just walk from one end of the school district to the other, it was more than 15 miles away. If we did have our license, we might spend the day at the local pool and then at a friend’s house. Sometimes, it might be a local field where there was a bone fire going on. Most of the time, there was some adult around or near by. More often than not, we were at one of the extra-curricular activities. Even if you didn’t participate you were there, because that was were everyone else was.
In the city, so many kids just hang out doing nothing. Just walking around the mall or on the streets, hanging out on street corners. There is hardly ever an adult around. There doesn’t seem to be anything else to do. There are so many people in the city that if everyone showed up at the local sporting event, they would need a stadium! So in some ways, I can see why the kids end up with jobs. The ironic thing is that because of the lack of any responsibility, I see many 17-19 year olds that are more like 12-14 year olds. Yet these kids are treated like adults in many places. … hmmm
I don’t think one way is better than the other. I could site the statics on crime and graduation rates … but to make them fair you would have to look at the size of the populations. Of course crime would be higher in the city, things are more accessible and there are more people to commit the crimes. The number of people on government assistance would be higher in the city because there are more people in the city. I just think things are different, because, well, things ARE different.
I was just putting out some of the thoughts and observations that I have noticed once again from a country girl living in a city. It is hard for me to see things the other way around, maybe in a few years. 😉