LITTLE THINGS MEAN A LOT
“For who has despised the day of small things?” (ZECHARIAH 4:10 NKJV)
Little things are often viewed as being insignificant, but in reality they are very important. I have found that little things are the spices in life.
For example, a man may feel he is showing love for his family by working three jobs and bringing home plenty of money to assure them financial security. He is not home most of the time and is tired when he is there. He is doing a big thing but ball with his son, bringing home a rose for his wife, taking her to dinner, etc. He may end up with a divorce or at best a marriage that is unsatisfying, dull, and tasteless. … Love is an effort. Sometimes we allow ourselves to become lazy in dispersing this gift.
Loving With Words
Words have a tremendous impact on all of our lives. I know people who have lived a life of crippling insecurity because their parents spoke words of judgment, criticism, and failure to them on a regular basis. These people can be healed only by receiving God’s unconditional love. They have been wounded in their souls (their inner selves, their mind, will, and emotions), a place to which only God has total access.
That is why it is important that we learn to use our words for blessing, healing and building up and not for cursing, wounding and tearing down, as Ephesians 4:29 says:
Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing.
That is especially true in regard to our own children.
As parents we should not tell our children they are something unless we want them to become what we are saying. Words create an image inside of us, and Proverbs 23:7 says that as a person thinks in his heart, so is he. If a parent tells a child he is stupid and can’t do anything right, he will start producing the seed that is planted in him. Those negative words will have an effect on his perception of himself, which in turn will be manifested in his attitude and behavior. He will literally become what he believes himself to be based on what he has been told about himself. The biblical principle is set forth in Galatians 6:7: “For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap.”
Believing the best of people and speaking words that build them up is one way of loving them. Think of these words and then think about how they make you feel: Ugly Stupid Failure Incompetent Slow Clumsy Hopeless
Do they make you feel uplifted, excited and happy, as though you can be a success at anything you attempt? I am sure they don’t.
Now consider words like: Attractive Intelligent Hopeful Blessed Creative Talented Anointed I am sure you find that such words affect you in a much more positive way.
You can see why words are so important in the life of the person who truly desires to walk in love toward others.
MAKE LOVE A HABIT
And let us consider and give attentive, continuous care to watching over one another, studying how we may stir up (stimulate and incite) to love and helpful deeds and noble activities. (HEBREWS 10:24)
WATCH YOUR MOUTH!
But I tell you, on the day of judgment men will have to give account for every idle (inoperative, nonworking) word they speak. (MATTHEW 12:36)
Parents, employers, friends, husbands, wives, children — all of us need to make a commitment to love others with our words, to build confidence in others. Every word we speak can be a brick to build with or a bulldozer to destroy.
Loving With Material Goods
Little children, let us not love [merely] in theory or in speech but in deed and in truth (in practice and in sincerity). (1 JOHN 3:17–18)
There is something deep in every believer that wants to help others; however, selfishness can cause us to be so aggressive about obtaining our own desires that we become oblivious to the needs around us.
We can have good intentions and still be disobedient. Procrastination is very deceptive. We don’t see it as disobedience because we intend to obey God; it is just that we are going to do it when — when we have more money, when we are not so busy, as soon as Christmas is over, after we get the kids in school this year, as quick as vacation is over, etc.
If you live to meet needs and to make others happy, you will find “joy unspeakable” in the process (1 Peter 1:8 KJV).
Loving With Thoughts
We make a mistake when we have the opinion that our thoughts don’t affect people. We can often feel the thoughts of others, and they can feel our thoughts. Our thoughts not only affect others, they also affect us in a most amazing way. Proverbs 23:7 teaches us that as we think, so we are. If we think unkind thoughts, we become unkind. If we think loving thoughts, we become loving. Satan tries to fill our minds with wrong thoughts all the time. Our responsibility is to cast down those wrong thoughts, get them under control and replace them with right thoughts.
Often we think things about people we would never say to them, not realizing that even our thoughts can affect others. We can sin in thought, word or deed, so we should be careful in all of these areas.
OUR THOUGHTS AFFECT OUR ATTITUDE
It is important for us to have a loving attitude toward people, an attitude that is filled with mercy and kindness. A right attitude begins with right thinking.
When I notice my attitude toward a person or a situation going in a wrong direction, I always find that the problem began with wrong thinking. I have learned that in order to avoid thinking negatively, I must keep my thoughts and attitude renewed daily (Ephesians 4:23).
A real breakthrough came for me in my own love walk when I realized that love was something I needed to do on purpose. I could not wait to feel loving; I had to choose to be loving. The same rule applies to our thoughts. We must learn to think good thoughts about people on purpose.
Thinking good thoughts opens the door for God to work. If we want the Lord’s good plan to manifest in our life, we must get into agreement with Him (Amos 3:3). He is not negative in any way, and according to the Bible, we have been given the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) — but we must choose to use it.
If you have not been working with the Holy Spirit to break old thought patterns and form new ones, it is time to get started.
When love takes charge of us (which is another way of saying, when God takes charge of us), we cannot think bad things about people. We don’t even want to.
Our life is a reflection of our thoughts. It is impossible to have a good life unless we have trained ourselves to have good thoughts. If we want others to see Jesus reflected in our life, then His mind must be reflected in us.
Be determined to love God, yourself and others with your thoughts. Ask the Lord to reduce you to love. It is the only road to true happiness, and the only way we can be a witness in our world today.